So you’ve come to the point in your life where you have become pregnant, for some it’s been the culmination of a lot of hard work, and for others it might be a complete surprise, but hopefully it is an exciting time for everyone concerned. If this the case then your relationship will enter nine months that will be completely different to anything you have ever experienced before! With that come changes in emotions that partners will wonder if their loved one has suffered from alien abduction, and they were swapped with a completely different being. Some may be luckier, but the swings of emotions that are experienced in pregnancy can put a partner on the back foot – so what does she really mean when she asks you that question? Hopefully this will help you find out!
There’s one question that you should already know the answer to, but just in case, we’ll let you into a little secret. If she asks you ‘be honest – do I look fat’ then do the right thing and reassure her. She doesn’t want you to turn around and say ‘well you do look like a bit of a balloon nowadays’ that could possibly be one of the worst things you could do! Reassure your partner that they look great, and pregnancy suits them, because if you don’t, you wont be flavor of the month, and that’s probably an understatement. What if she says ‘don’t worry about coming to the antenatal classes’? She means she wants you to go and support her, it’s important for you to try and fit the pregnancy into your life, because at the end of the day the result will be around for the rest of your life! Supporting your partner by going to classes like that, and taking an interest in her pregnancy will give you both the feeling of being involved, and that can be a really important step in a happy pregnancy and relationship. She might not want you to tell her how she should be feeling though!
All she wants is your support
‘Will I be a good mother?’ The answer is YES! Don’t think about it, don’t give some meaningless response; make sure that you reassure your partner that she will be a good mother. Get the wrong answer here and your partner wont just be angry with you, she’ll probably take a lot of hard work to forgive you. Reassurance during pregnancy is really important and you can really help your partner through it and into motherhood with saying the right things at the right time, and just giving them that positive push. And then there’s that final question over s-e-x. If your partner is wanting to be intimate, don’t turn her down – it will help her realize you still love her and most of all find her attractive!
This article was written by James who runs a pregnancy site which gives information on all aspects of your pregnancy including a due date calculator to prepare you!