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baby_blog_addict_baby_-_small2> Today’s Tykes: Secure Kids or Rudest in History?
Many experts say today’s kids are ruder than ever. And it may have something to do with popular parenting movements focusing on self-esteem and the generation that’s embracing them: Generation X, or those born between 1965 and 1977.

> The Earlier the Toilet Training the Better
What’s it going to take for American parents to realize that just as it’s far easier to house-train a four-month-old puppy than a year-old dog, it’s far easier to toilet train a 20-month-old child than a 3-year-old? Fifty-four years ago, according to a study conducted at the time by Harvard University, nearly 90 percent of America’s children had been successfully trained before they reached their second birthdays. Today, courtesy of several decades of toilet-babble issuing primarily from pediatrician/author T. Berry Brazelton, parents wrongly think training a child younger than 2 is psychologically harmful, if not impossible.

> Consensual Parenting
One mom gives it a big thumbs down.  According to proponents, children should be allowed to do what they want, when they want it and not be hassled by adults (their parents) to do anything that might feel “uncomfortable.” If, say, 3-year-old Johnny hits another kid in the playground, he should not be forced to apologize until it feels “authentic.”

> Fathers and Their Parenting Influence
A new report has suggested young children tend to harbor gender biases about certain hobbies, which may mean that fathers could have a positive influence on their kids by exposing them to different activities.

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  1. Wow. That article on consensual parenting was a bit harsh. I think partly because the author doesn’t understand what it is all about and partly because she doesn’t seem to respect her kids as human beings.

    I wrote about consensual parenting too on my blog and while I don’t think that all aspects of it are practical all the time, what I like about it is that it reminds me to treat my child like a person, not like an animal to be trained.

    When I am making decisions or plans, I take my husband’s wishes into consideration. Why shouldn’t I give my kids the same respect? It isn’t about being permissive. It is about making choices together that benefit everyone and teaching your children to think about others too and not just themselves.

    The quote on consensual parenting that I led off my post with that really spoke to me is this:

    “…we can make a choice; a choice to threaten and intimidate to get our way, or a choice to reach out in compassion and connection to find common ground…”

    To read more of my thoughts on it, you can find my post here: http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/11/27/consensual-living/